Professional Peefer

kincringeemporium:

chizuu:

chizuu:

i genuinely hope anyone ages 13-15 on this website (or, god forbid, younger) stays safe and keeps their private information secure and really private 

please, if you’re really young on tumblr, try not to get swept up in the discourse and the tremendous amount of arguing with strangers that goes on here. i know you probably feel mature for your age but this website, like, really psychologically affects youth, and i encourage you to be cautious about your interactions with people on here

 please, kiddos, stay safe

additionally, for my young, non-adult followers,

• depression memes about wanting to die aren’t a healthy coping mechanism and can lead to worsening symptoms of your own mental health if overindulged in
• you are not garbage. or trash. i know these terms are popular on here, but you shouldn’t be calling yourself that. you have everything you need inside of you to become your best self, even if it’s hard to see that
• seriously, really don’t trust adults who want to date you. don’t trust adults who call you hot, flirt with you, ask you sexual questions, or ask you for nudes. (that last one is VERY illegal, also, please get help from a trusted non-creepy adult if this happens to you)
• the opinions of complete strangers who aren’t interacting with you typically aren’t worth it. move on, use the block button. it’s not worth engaging with people who are going to make you feel awful or unsafe
• take breaks from tumblr if it’s getting really stressful for you. talk to friends if you’ve got em, play a videogame or do whatever it is that can take your mind off the massive amounts of Hell on this website
• recovery is good. it’s really, really good. if you’re having mental health issues, please seek out help if you can, or ask a trusted adult or friend for guidance. you are not alone. don’t let this website make you feel like you are

• Posting NSFW does not make you “cool” or grown-up. It’s not something you should be doing when you’re a child, and if you are under 18, your nudes count as child porn. Don’t take ‘em. 
• this does not include NSFW jokes. 
• You will make mistakes, you will accidentally upset people, and you will believe some misinformation this hellsite gives you. But that doesn’t make you problematic and canceled and toxic. They’re mistakes. You can learn from them. 
• You are not defined by any shitty things people might say about your group or demographic. That means your race, your gender, whether you’re cis or trans, your country, or even a fandom you’re in. 
• For the love of all that is still good in this world, fact check yourself and others. Find and ask for sources. Please. 
• It’s not okay for people to demand evidence of your struggle. You don’t have to list all your diagnoses or problems on your About Me pages for permission to participate in discussion. 
• Just because something is a coping mechanism doesn’t mean that it’s going to be healthy in the long run, or even that it’s healthy now. 
• Please avoid people who act like being part of a minority (like LGBTQ+ or POC) means they’re better/stronger/smarter than the majority. There’s a difference between being proud of your identity and ragging on people who don’t share it. Different groups have different struggles, and all are legitimate. 
• And please avoid spaces or communities that encourage extreme escapism, give you weird vibes, or are involved in topics of heavy discourse. i.e., CGLRE/ABDL/littlespaces or whatever – pedophilia and related discourse everywhere! 
• Whether or not you feel brave enough to confront someone who’s harassing you, there is a point at which you’re better off blocking and ignoring. As said above, engaging in too much arguing isn’t good for you. Walking away doesn’t mean you’re weak.

• It’s okay (even good) to have an older/adult friend who you look up to and ask for advice. A lot of us older teens and adults really could have benefited from that when we were younger. 
• Your identity is not just one thing. You’re not just a trans kid, or a gay/lesbian kid, or an autistic kid, or anything Tumblr might suggest is the Number One Cool Thing about you. These are parts of who you are. 
• If you’re too afraid or too anxious to share an opinion with a community you’re in, your fear might not be the only problem. You might need to find a more welcoming community. 
• With that previous point being said, two more things: 
• If you feel anxious with someone in particular, but not in other situations or with other people, that is very likely not just anxiety. Avoid the person if you can.
• Just because something is accepted doesn’t mean it’s real or healthy. Don’t blindly accept everything you see, read, or hear. 
• Adults tell you these things because we have been in similar situations.
  We’re not trying to baby you or belittle you. And most of us are still learning ourselves. 

-K